My mother and sister display high levels of psychopathic
traits. Living with them enabled me to
see their entire personalities—not just what the psychiatrist or psychologist
sees at the opposite side of the desk. They
sought to destroy me whenever possible. Their
strategy came in the form of innuendo to undermine self-esteem, or to bully me and
turn friends and family against me by poisoning those who knew me behind my back. There is no end to what they would do to
shatter my life. They were pathological
liars, in many ways more cunning and manipulative than males who display psychopathic
traits.
My mother and sister desire to be the center of attention
and demand center stage. Around people, their
voices rise octaves above everyone else while their arms flail in all directions,
turning all attention to themselves. Listen closely to their style of
speech—how they manage to play the victim.
They may shed crocodile tears to play on your sympathy, and the next
moment their tears can transform into raucous laughter. Their “personalities”
turn on and off like neon signs.
You dare not challenge them.
This could trigger a ballistic response.
Both my mother and sister are known for their histrionics. Their award
winning performances are convincing enough to persuade listeners to believe
their side of the story--even after hearing your side first. They resort to whatever means to get what they
want, and this includes flirtations with married men, and coopting through
seduction. In the end, they are loyal to no one. They believe they are entitled to everything
while it pleases them to give you nothing.
They gloat over others’ misfortune and while gloating, you may even
notice a smirk on their faces. After
all, why should anyone else have more than they! They can steal or even deliberately damage your
treasured possession, but if they get caught, they will never apologize because
it is you who is crazy. They distort all
stories in their favor, and blame others for what they do.
At the core, neither my mother nor sister likes
herself. But do not feel sorry for them. No matter what you do, no matter what you
give, they remain ungrateful. They are
extremely envious and desire to obtain everything that they want since they believe
they were cheated out of life’s bounty, and it is up to them to even the score.
What they want is impossible to get. How
come the movie producers are not banging down their doors? How come they did
not get long, stilted legs like Doris Day?
Mind you, what they want has no end and brings no satisfaction. They appreciate nothing. Beware of confidential
information. They are adept at sidling
up to people. They can size you up in a
moment while you are still trying to figure them out. There is no choice but to avoid them because they
will only bring pain, chaos, confusion, and worse.
My book, Born to
Destroy, is one of the first instructional books on the female psychopath
in the family setting. It is my personal
story, designed to lend insight to all those confused souls who are living a
similar existence as my own. It may be
purchased at
